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Motherhood is a beautiful, wonderful, crazy, unpredictable journey. Though each journey is unique in its own way, there are many things all or most mothers face. We all face moments where we think why me? Why now? Moments where we are curled up in the fetal position crying as silently as possible in our room while the children are sleeping in theirs, thinking, am I a failure?
Maybe many things in life are going wrong, maybe it was just a bad day, or perhaps it’s that postpartum stuff coming to bite you in the rear one last time. Either way, you are not alone!
Have you ever allowed your child to have something a little too close to a snack for lunch or dinner? Like cereal, pop tarts, toast, or something else because they begged you, you were having a rough day, everything seemed to be going wrong and it was a simple request? You’re not alone. Most parents at one point or another do this. Does this make you a bad parent? NO! It makes you human. Sometimes we take the easy route, Sometimes we give in, and that’s okay.
Have you ever been behind on cleaning and then you get a call last minute saying someone’s coming over? So you start stuffing everything in bedrooms and closets to make your house seem “picked up” by the time your guests arrive? At bedtime, you walk into your room to find that you have a mountain of things from your living room on your bed. Those items probably end up on your bedroom floor for at least the night, if not longer. I think as mom’s we have all been there at least once. Are we proud of it? No. But should we be ashamed of not being perfect? Definitely not.
Have you ever hid sweets in another room or the back of the cupboard so you can sneak and eat them when the kids are not around? Like please, let me eat this tub of ice cream without having to feed you 75% of it. Child, You don’t even need that much sugar! Let me just tuck you into bed and then I can enjoy it while a binge watch some shows on Netflix. Or enjoy a few candy bars hiding in the bathroom with the shower on so they think you’re in the shower and not just hiding from them. I mean, kids are smarter than you think, can’t just go stand in a bathroom for 5 minutes without a logical explanation, or you will be caught and next thing you know they will be banging on the door every time you pee asking if you’re eating candy in there!
If we are being honest here, how many times have you bribed your child? Come on, I know you all have at least once. Do you’re homework and I’ll let you watch tv. Eat your dinner and ill give you some candy. If you are good in the store I will buy you a toy. I have $2 and it will be yours if you pick up that mess. What do you bribe your children with the most? Don’t feel bad, we all do it. Maybe not all with candy or money, but in some way or another, we have all been guilty of this.
Show of hands, how many of you have power napped while your children (Of old enough age hopefully. Not condoning leaving infant unattended or anything.) were playing contently? Maybe for just a few seconds, possibly minutes, or maybe you realized it was going on a half hour and they are still in their room laughing and having a good time. Maybe they were sitting beside you on the couch and you were trying so hard, fighting to stay awake and next thing you know, you’re waking up from a power nap. No shame, it happens to the best of us.
Do you ever let the laundry or dishes pile up? Or look around to realize there is clutter on every flat surface in your living room and kitchen? I have. Maybe even more times than I care to admit. Sometimes it’s because I am so busy with other things that I don’t have as much time as I need to get everything done. Other times I am just simply tired. And when I do get everything caught up and done it seems like 5 minutes later it’s a mess again. I’m not perfect and its okay to admit that. You’re not alone in having a messy house and getting delayed on housework, even if you are a stay at home mom.
No matter what you going through or how many times a week you feel like you’re failing, you are not alone. We as mothers have probably all been there, done that, and got the t-shirt. Having bad days or sometimes giving into the little things doesn’t make you a failure or a bad parent.
I want you to know, You’re a great mom and you’re kill’n it! Great job on everything you do!
Your kids are fed: GOOD JOB!
You did laundry at least once this week: AMAZING.
Your kids are happy: EXCELLENT!
Your kid is mad at you: YOU MUST BE DOING SOMETHING RIGHT.
You did dishes a few times this week: YOU ROCK.
You managed to make it through the week with a little of your sanity: PLEASE TELL ME HOW YOU DO THAT?