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For the past 4 and a half years I have been a stay at home mom. Before that, I was in high school. I have never had a job, but its time to take that leap.
I am going from stay-at-home mom to working girl. But that is not the only change for my family. My husband, Devin, is going from working man to stay-at-home dad.
What brought on this change? I was thinking about what we would do if one day my husband couldn’t work, or if for some other reason I had to get a job. What would I do? Who would hire a middle-aged woman with absolutely no work experience aside from babysitting? Probably not many people.
My husband had been working since the moment we found out I was pregnant. He worked 1st shift at a trailer factory. Coming home every day so tired all he wanted to do was sleep. Then he worked 2nd shift at a factory where they made car windows. Working second shift, coming home wide awake a midnight and then sleeping until it was time for work again meant we only saw him on weekends. So he switched to 3rd shift. This gave us a lot more time with him.
But then there was a point where he didn’t have a job for a few weeks, and in that time I saw him bond with the children like never before. I decided that’s what I wanted for him and the kids. I wanted them to bond, to play, to build a stronger relationship. But I was 8 months pregnant at the time.
Now our baby is almost 6 months old and it’s time for that change.
I’m excited. I never thought I would be excited to work, but I am. I want to provide for my family, I want to give my husband a break.
Devin is excited to have more free time and more time with the kids. Though he does have his doubts about me working. I don’t think he ever imagined a time where I would be working and he would be staying at home. He’s having trouble wrapping his head around it.
It’s going to take time for all of us to adjust to the change. Devin will have to adjust to getting the kids off to school, keeping up with housework, and doing the cooking. I will have to adjust to getting up at 6 am and not laying down for a nap shortly after. I will have to adjust to seeing the kids less, this will by far be the hardest part for me. The kids are going to have to adjust to dad’s way of doing things. Different rules and routines.
Fortunately, Devin is not naive enough to think that stay-at-home moms sit on their buts all day. He knows being a stay-at-home parent is long hard hours and lots of work. a 24-hour job. Even with him going to work, he has always tried to help out as much as possible at home, especially since our youngest was born. For that, I am extremely thankful and I plan to do the same in return now that I will be the working parent.
In the end, I think this will be better for our family. I think we will come through it stronger and better than ever.